I think we’ll save the enforced quirkiness for the reception.
Sorry, but not everything in life is meant to be entertainment. There is, in short, something missing in the aesthetic experience of our young if they feel the need to repudiate the solemnity of their own marriage thus:
I’m glad you think your wedding is a joke.
Bah humbug.
All my love,
The Nuptial Curmudgeon
** EDIT **
No offense to any and all who sent this our way! WE LUVS U.
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yeah, I hated this too. I couldn’t even watch the whole thing…
We all watched this at work the other day. We were mostly just confused.
***I started out making a small comment and it sort of went out of control. I get the feeling that not that many people are reading our blog at this point and if you are and you disagree and want to chime in with the opposite sentiment, go ahead!
Many friends (including ones who read this blog) sent this video along to us. It was everywhere! I googled it and even saw that it was featured on the Today’s show, complete with a re-enactment.
My own response to the video was really different from (seemingly) everyone else. I couldn’t believe that anyone would do that at their wedding. I also couldn’t believe that this thing went “viral”. I had a really strong negative reaction to it. It struck me as some kind of a skit for Young Life Camp…but a wedding ceremony??? I thought, “This takes the wedding personalization to a whole new level…is this a joke?” Not to mention that the song is by Chris Brown…but I won’t go there (except to say that his song “Forever” is now the #7 on iTunes top downloads list today).
I told James about it when he got home from Vermont, but wanted to get his reaction on it without any outside influence from me. So I didn’t tell him much and left out my opinion. He watched about 30 seconds of it (groomsmen halfway down the aisle) and made a face and said “No. Ugh. Turn that off”.
Yes, yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion! “To each his own”…I just want to give my take on it. So obviously a wedding ceremony is a sacred event. It’s a BIG DEAL. This just made me feel like the sanctity of it was cheapened. Maybe because it struck close to home since we’re gearing up for the event. Turning your wedding ceremony into some kind of goofy dance party seems really…wrong.
I’m very interested in this right now because early on into the planning stages of our wedding I got swept up into reading wedding blogs (which have lovely ideas on them). But it became clear early on that most of these brides are only really concerned with the details in the look and feel of their weddings and not the actual ceremony and vows and serious life commitment / engagement dynamics. It’s all about indie-this or quirky-that, Kodachrome photography, and place cards that stick out of moss and stuff like that. Hardly ever do I read about the actual ceremony.
Maybe I’m ranting too much…I just think this is a good opportunity to talk about these things. Wedding planning is sort of a magnified look at the self-centered behaviors we have. Me, me, me. Its MY day. Its MY Wedding. Early on a lot of folks said to us “Your wedding is only about YOU”…but we talked about that a lot and decided; well…naturally this is about us. But its about us joining our lives under God and under law. Forever. It is about the Lord’s work in our lives, bringing us together, our families, and our friends, and our community.
Why have weddings become a two-man circus performance?
well said, steph.
I puked in a bag this morning after watching this ceremony. What’s really interesting is to see the little, white-haired woman in the front of the church. I could just see her thinking to herself, “My God, what has happened to these young people!?”
Ditto!!
HA!